Ever feel that your mind is stuck in perfection as the standard?
We can be inundated with these unrealistic expectations whether that’s from Instagram, or our friends, or simply our own personal narratives – and quite frankly – it’s down right scary when you feel stuck there.
I’ve hit burn out and exhaustion from trying to achieve one more thing, or strive for that level of perfection. And sister, if you can relate, I have something for you today. It doesn’t have to be this way, and it’s time feel fit in lives – physically, spiritually, and professionally.
In today’s, special episode I bring on a gal that I personally coached to help her find breakthrough in her health coaching business, Tanner Hobbes.
Tanner is a trailblazer in the health coaching community – bringing freedom and light into what can be an entangled place: a woman’s relationship with food and with herself.
Listen in as Tanner brings wisdom into the #1 emotional struggle she sees among the women in her groups, how she personally continued to grow her business, and also what to do when you hit complete burn out.
You’ll learn why it’s vital to
how stewardship is the name of the game, and perhaps where you are giving too much in your relationships.
Whether you’re the gal who is a business dreamer, the woman desiring community, the one who is hearing crickets on social media, or the sister who hit a wall in life or business – this episode is for you.
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There have been seasons when I look around – and I see friends and family just killin it in their careers and making big leaps forward in life. And while I’m so excited for them and cheering them on, it does make me step back and feel as if I’m over here walking in circles without direction.
Can you relate?
That feeling of being lost, not sure what to do next – can make you feel like you’ve made all the wrong decisions. Or even worse – keep you from making any decision at all.
Sister, I so see you in that. But to this I say:
You don’t have to remain feeling as if you’re swirling because the truth is, we all feel a little that way most days. But it’s the steps you take – despite that feeling – is what will propel you forward and out of that feeling.
The first step after stewarding what is in front you, is to ask yourself,
Don’t write off your own gifts, passions, and abilities. Because they were uniquely crafted, created, and given just to you.
Listen in to today’s episode for my other three tips on how lose the feeling that you are shooting in the dark and step forward with intention.
It’s time to blast through your excuses and confusion, and begin to walk in clarity to your next chapter.
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We kicked off 2019 with a hike around the mountain. About halfway through a steep spot, my buns started to burn and Matt’s toes hurt in his shoes but we kept going.
Then, I got to thinking: you know how we say faith can move mountains? But then how frustrating it is when you believe and hope and pray and trust and you still don’t see that mountain in your life move? I know how that feels. It’s something I’ve often wrestled with. I’m believing…why won’t the mountain move? are my prayers going to voicemail or something?
Well, you know what I realized as I hiked this mountain today? The mountain seemed to move. Of course, it didn’t physically move. But before I started hiking, at the start of the trailhead, the mountain was this massive thing in front of me. Then, when we got around to the other side, step by step, rock by rock, it eventually was behind me.
And I thought, “Hmmph. Isn’t that something? The mountain moved from before me to behind me because I MOVED. Because one small step after another added up.”
Maybe that’s a way that faith can move mountains after all — because faith moves us.
Sis, I don’t know what mountain you need to climb in 2019. It might be the the break up you just need to get over…the anxiety you want to overcome…the grudge you’ve been holding…the weight you’ve been trying to gain or lose…or something else.
It might seem big and immovable but guess what? You are movable — let your faith move your feet this year. You really don’t climb a mountain in a day. It takes one little step at a time.
You might not be able to move it but with a little faith and a whole lot of grit, you can move through it—even when it burns and you want to quit.
“What do you want to be when you grow up?”
It’s a question we hear a lot as kids. It helps us begin to dream up and stir up our passions and talents – even at a young age. Perhaps your answer was to be an astronaut, teacher, or doctor. Maybe you wanted to be an author, singer or artist. But when you did actually ‘grow up’ – did your dream and answer to that question come to fruition? Do you even remember what your dream was all those years ago?
For some, this is completely the case and they are absolutely living our their dreams as a child. But for the rest of us, we are still figuring it out over here by putting some fragmented pieces together.
If that’s you – welcome to the club. With a background in Health Care Administration myself, but being an author, speaker, and podcaster, I am probably the President of the ‘Figure It Out As You Go’ Club.
But you see, this is why it’s important that we never stop asking, ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ once we reach a certain age. At least, this is what I learned from my wise and unicorn business friend, Alli Worthington. Alli is the author of The Year of Living Happy, Fierce Faith: A Woman’s Guide to Fighting Fear, Wrestling Worry and Overcoming Anxiety and Breaking Busy: Finding Peace and Purpose in a World of Crazy, she is the co-founder of the Blissdom Conference, and is a speaker, podcaster, and business coach. Her goal is to help women live the life they were created to live.
As you can tell, Alli knows a thing or two about creating a career for yourself. I have learned so much from Alli in regards to not putting myself, or talents, in a box. We live in a time where we are able to put together those fragmented pieces and passions, throw off the labels placed on us, and create a career where we can truly make an impact – even if we aren’t exactly certain what that looks like quite yet.
Our lives and careers are an on-going, ever progressing, newly surprising journey. If you’re ready to take the pressure out of the figuring out process, identify the triggers that are holding you back from your next steps, and learn how to develop tools to get out of your own way, this episode is for you, sister.
Alli imparts so much wisdom in this episode for those of us still asking what we want to be. She encourages us women to show up, even when you’re terrified, and even before it makes sense. In her wise piece of advice, things usually don’t make sense until you’re able to look back on it. In other words, this is your permission to go for it, right now, even before you know why.
Friend, it may be your mindset, not skill set, that is holding you back. Step into your strengths, show up when it’s scary, identify triggers that are keeping you small, and get out of you own way. You are capable. You are wise. You are loved.
If you haven’t done so today, ask yourself, ‘What do I want to be when I grow up?’
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‘This isn’t how it’s supposed to go down.’
Ever said this to yourself? After a tumultuous time of heart break, rejection, or betrayal, we’ve all found ourselves thinking this at some point or another.
You turn to self-protection mode, feel as if you can’t trust anyone, and start asking the questions, ‘Am I smart?’, ‘Am I worthy?’, ‘Am I good enough?’
And if any know this to be true, it’s author, serial entrepreneur, and TV personality, Marshawn Evans. In this episode, listen in as Marshawn shares with Jordan her transformation story of major heart break to tremendous break through.
Marshawn drops some truth on how you can hear from God in a ‘lightning bolt‘ moment – and how you can choose to either doubt yourself on it, or make a decision in the direction of it. Tune in to learn
Gal, it’s time to upgrade your mindset, lean into faith, and rethink your self talk so you can ditch the doubt and grab your destiny.
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My mom gave me a pot of sunflowers two weeks ago. She knew my history with keeping flowers alive and told me this is a simple starter plant, easy to keep alive. Just needs full sunlight and water now and then.
Sunlight. Water. Got it.
I stuck it in a patch of light on my back porch, up for the challenge that’s *supposed* to be easy.
Well I’ve since forgotten about said flowers and today I found them wilted, dried up and dead.
But it did rain since I set them out there, so I think God was trying to help me out. But alas, they are still goners.
So, this is either a test of my perseverance. Or a clear sign that I was not born to have flowers.
I believe it’s the latter.
And I think we all do that sometimes—see the things we struggle at and assume we’re just not made for them. But maybe they’re really a test of our perseverance.
Maybe the very things that need to bloom in your life aren’t the things that come easy but the things God wants to grow Y O U through, too.
Give those raw and delicate parts of your heart lots of Light and water em with the Word – with the well that never runs dry.
And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.
I filled my cup of coffee and tossed in a dash of cinnamon (I’ve been into that, recently. anyone else?) and walked out to the back patio.
My backyard is so quiet, serene. Living in the country lets me breathe a bit deeper.
The dog followed me outside as I took a seat and opened to 1 Samuel.
Having never read the book of 1 Samuel before, I wasn’t entirely sure what to expect. I mean, other than that it was probably about Samuel (good guess, or??)
As I read through chapter 1, studied with commentaries, dug into every line on the page, and highlighted note after note, the page just came to life.
And God taught me something I never anticipated to learn through Hannah’s (the mother of Samuel) story.
Before Samuel was born, Hannah’s womb was closed, which, understandably, caused grief for Hannah. But her husband loved her, he would always bless her with a double portion.
But she had an ongoing burden, a conflict with her hubby’s other wife, Peninnah, who could give him children (polygamy was common back then, although the Bible never condones it, and always points to the conflict it brings).
Hannah was provoked by her rival, the other wife, causing her to feel less than, and bitter as a result.
Then, it says, that while at the temple of the Lord, Hannah wept bitterly, pleading with Him.
While her pain was valid, and while she did the right thing by taking her tears and burden to the feet of the Father, something struck me as I read:
Hannah is at the house of the Lord, with the blessing of a double portion from her husband who loves her, and she cannot enjoy it because her burdens are so heavy.
And a powerful lesson jumped out at me.
How often do we do that? It is indeed possible for your problems at home to make your time with God miserable, to ruin your very ability to experience the blessing of His presence—if you let it.
I don’t know what your burdens look like today. Perhaps they are as heavy and painful as Hannah’s, or just a little irritating. Either way, I think the question we must always ask ourselves, in pursuit of joy and purpose, is this: Are you so focused on a burden in your life that you’re missing a blessing in your life?