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I'm Jordan Lee Dooley. I'm just a simple Indiana girl, writing, speaking, and handing out free hugs left and right. In college, I started a small shop called SoulScripts, just for fun, and now it's a widely recognized brand, houses a full fledged movement (Your Brokenness is Welcome Here), and provides employment opportunities to college women working to fund their education. On top of that, it led to further creative endeavors like speaking, writing books, and creating a variety of resources to help everyday women across the to live their most intentional lives.

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Relationships

 

Have you ever experienced high frustration levels with your significant other over something that is quite trivial? Something seemingly small likes the dishes, or arriving somewhere on time, or everyone’s favorite: laundry?  You wonder why your emotions seems out of proportion to the situation at hand.

It just shouldn’t be this difficult, right?!

If you’ve had these thoughts, you’re definitely not the only couple that has been there.

In this special episode, Jordan welcomes in her husband, Matt, as they discuss married life and fruitfully navigating differences in a relationship. Tune in to learn practical and tangible tips on:

  • Balancing contrasting strengths and weaknesses on a daily basis,
  • Fun ways to work toward common goals,
  • Creating boundaries that result in unity; and
  • How to affirm one another in an impactful way.

 

Navigating a relationship with differing strengths can be a difficult task, but if we’re honest, the root cause of most issues boils down to pride. Small things begin to compound and transform into big issues. But once that is identified, it can then be strategized.

And this applies for other relationships, too. Coworkers, friends, families – if you’re able to identify how your strength can support a not so strong area in their life, sister, you’ll begin to see frustration level decrease and teamwork increase.

You got this. With a little patience, a touch of creativity, and a lot of intentionality – you’ll begin to refine your relationships by redefining boundaries.

Give this episode a listen on Spotify here!

And for you Android users, listen on Stitcher here!

Relationship Frustrations? Disciplines to Deal with Different Strengths & Weaknesses

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Relationships

 

Have you ever stopped yourself from asking a friend for a favor because you didn’t want to be a ‘burden’? Or how about something simple like texting a friend to catch up and grab coffee – do you find you hesitate before hitting ‘send’ because you question if it’ll just be a bother to them?

This is an all too common narrative that, most of the time, is made up in our own minds. We assume we are a burden, don’t ask for the help or send the text, and ultimately, hinder vulnerability in our relationships.

And it stops now.

In this episode, listen to Jordan’s hilarious story of the first time she identified this behavior in herself and why she was told, ‘Don’t be a blessing blocker.’

Listen in for tips on:

  • How to identify the root behind the fear of asking for help;
  • Tangible ways to decipher when to ask for support;
  • How to change the false narrative running in your head; and
  • Why others receive a gift in helping you.

 

If you’ve ever worried about being a burden, sister, this episode is for you. Time to kick off the shoes of insecurity and step into a community of freedom and support.

Give this episode a listen on Spotify here!

And for you Android users, listen on Stitcher here!

Have a friend that tends to hesitate to ask YOU for help – even when you’d love to offer your support?! Send them this episode and let them know they are loved!

What To Do When You Worry About Being a Bother

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Relationships

 

Have you ever been on an awkward date? Do you feel intimidated or frustrated by the dating scene? Have you felt emotionally invested after date #1, just to realize you two weren’t on the same page?  

You’re not alone, girl.

While you will most likely still have awkward dates (that’s where the best stories are born!), there are practical steps you can take before, during and after. And it may take some practice!

In this episode, I welcome in author, blogger, and speaker, Stephanie May Wilson, as we discuss how to navigate the wild west of dating. You’ll learn:

  • How to take the pressure off
  • How to feel prepared for the date itself 
  • What it means to ‘eat before you arrive

 

Share some laughs as we share awkward, first date stories – and chances are, you’ll find a piece of your story in ours. Tune in and learn helpful ideas you can put into action on your very next date – and find out how awesome things can come from our most awkward moments.

Tune in on Spotify here!

Listen on Stitcher here!

If you desire more, faith-based resources on dating and relationships after you’ve listened to this episode, check out what I have for you below:

BeLoved: 14 Days on Love, Loneliness, and Relationships

How to be Less Nervous and More Confident on a Date

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At some point or another, we’ve all been there. You have a lot of great friendships, but sometimes you wonder if these relationships are helping you or hindering you. You’re torn because you want to be a good friend, and yet you also want to pursue a life of healthy friendships.

Confusing, right?

How can you tell if a friendship is healthy or harmful? What happens when you and your friend differ in values? Is there something you can do to be a better friend? If you’ve found these questions coming to mind, this episode has your back. Join me as I walk through five, practical indicators to decipher if a friendship is healthy, what you can do if it’s not, and why you should stop calling someone ‘your best friend.’

We are all called to love others. But there is no ‘one size fits all’ category when it comes to friendships. So if you’ve ever felt uncertain about a friendship, or just not quite sure how to move forward, the indicators in this episode will provide some helpful direction. Bring on the clarity and be the best version of a friend you can be.

Listen in on Spotify here!

Listen on Stitcher here!

5 Ways to Know if Your Friendships are Healthy or Toxic

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Self-Care

 

Have you ever felt excluded or misunderstood? Do you find yourself hesitant to be vulnerable with others for fear of being judged or unwelcome? Do you desire authentic community and intentional conversation?

If so, you’re in the right place, friend.

We all desire to be known, understood, and loved – it’s what we were created for! But that can become messy when insecurity and comparison creep into the picture. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I chat through how the small business I started in college opened a doorway of intentional conversation with my sorority sisters. Dreams were exchanged and vulnerability shared, but when I began to blog about these conversations, I realized the insecurity among women was relatable to a much larger audience than I anticipated.

This led to the creation of my inclusive tagline, Your Brokenness is Welcome Here, and the response was incredible. Women from all walks of life found a piece of healing from the safety of these words, and hence – a space for women to come and belong was created.

In my very first podcast, I want to welcome you as you are, not as you think you ought to be. You’ll receive tangible tips and practical takeaways to navigate some of the most important areas of your life. Join the community and tackle the journey of life with a few laughs, embarrassing moments, and vulnerability along the way.

This is just the start of becoming the SHE you were always made to be.

Listen to the very first episode on Spotify here!

And on Stitcher here!

Your Brokenness is Welcome Here

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I remember the pit in my stomach, the feeling I had the night before he left — trying to savor each second, knowing that every moment that passed took us closer to saying goodbye… to what seemed like perpetual long distance.

He was heading to the other side of the country to start the next chapter in his life and I was staying behind, where our story together had started.

We didn’t know how long we’d be apart, or what would happen next. And it killed me. The next morning, a lump formed in my throat and my eyes welled up with tears as i wrapped my arms around his neck and buried my head in his shoulder.

I can’t remember how long we stood there embracing but I did wish it wouldn’t end. I tried to remember exactly what he smelled like and the way his beard scratched he side of my face when we hugged.
Girls, I know how hard it is to say goodbye. Whether you’re heading to college or sending him off to bootcamp or feeling that odd tension of excitement over a new opportunity while simultaneously feeling sadness over the way it takes you away from each other.

By the grace of God, we got through that long distance season and today I’m honestly grateful for it. But to those of you who may be about to enter into it or are currently facing it, here are a few things to help:

1. It is okay that it is hard. That makes it worth it.

2. Set date nights. Seriously. Pick a designated time once or twice a week where you’ll call or FaceTime and share a meal at the same time, or watch a movie together, or workout at the same time. You can still do things “together” if you get creative and intentional.

3. Be old fashioned. Write letters and send them to each other. Something tangible creates a connection technology cannot.

4. Instead of seeing this season as something to endure, make it something to enjoy. Look at it as a time to learn new things about the other. Make it your mission to learn 3-4 interesting new things about your person each week. Write them down so you remember and can look back as the weeks add up!
Remember that this is part of your story and if God has you together in the end, then really cherish this chapter before you get to happily ever after.

 

xo

J

Tips for the Girl in a Long Distance Relationship

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A friend and I recently sat crosslegged on the floor of her living room, as her 8 month old crawled about and cooed with excitement each time we caught her eye.

We talked for hours, about life, Jesus, marriage, all the good stuff. At one point in the conversation, she said something to the effect of, “I think you and Matt have such a fun friendship element to your marriage. That’s not an easy thing to accomplish!”

And it struck me.

I had never thought of it like that. But the conversation got my wheels turning, and I realized there really have been some intentional things we’ve done that have helped build a fun bond and strong friendship between us. So I wrote them up in a list for you to learn from.

Below, you’ll find 10 simple, practical, and creative ways to build a stronger friendship in your marriage.

1. Establish little traditions, just the two of you. One of our favorite things to do is hop in the car and go for Sunday drives, blare country love songs on the radio, and sing them to each other shamelessly.

2. Flirt. I like to wink at him from across the room or point out when his pants make his legs look good—even in front of friends. (Oops 😉 Don’t be ashamed of hitting on each other or building each other up. It shows you’re proud of the other and aren’t afraid to show it.

3. Do what the other loves. I’m personally not a fan of fishing but he loves it. Now and then, we cast a line together. It always ends up being a blast & I often learn something new.

4. Take risks together. We love to try new things and step out to do things people may not expect us to do at this stage of our life. It’s important to feel like it’s you against the world.

5. Don’t take things so dang seriously. Be weird together but do NOT put the other down unless you’re BOTH in on the joke.
6. Challenge each other. Sometimes we will go for a 1-2 mile jog together, cheering each other on and racing the last bit home. It’s good to push each other and a little competition in good fun can do wonders for ya.

7. Create your own language. Have code words no one else knows to communicate things like “I’m ready to go” when you’re out together. Instead living in your own worlds, be intentional about creating your own little world together.

8. Learn their favorites. Just tonight, we decided on take out. And instead of having to write down my order, he just asked, “your regular?” There’s something sweet about that. Pay attention to what they order, the styles they like, or tunes they tend to sing. it creates a sweet friendship when you really take time to learn each other, not just co-exist together.

9. Pray for each other, with each other, & over each other. Listen to their pain points and speak life into them. Its one of the best best ways to communicate you love, care for, and respect their heart.

10. Hold each other accountable and call the other UP, not out. Iron sharpens iron, baby!

10 Ways to Create a Stronger Friendship with Your Partner

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There‘s been moments I’ve caught myself wishing I had her hair, or her talent, or her (fill in the blank here). Anybody else ever feel that way now and then with their incredible friends?

Those thoughts never last long though, because true friendship doesn’t let them stick around. And that’s why I love that we have a friendship that celebrates one another’s inner beauty above all else.

So many people say women are competitive and clique-y. But when you find friends that care more about your SOUL than your surface level beauty and your heart more than your hair, comparison literally has no room and it has to leave.

True sisterhood, true friendship, is about championing one another. It’s the kind of friendship that will speak right into your insecurities, not with empty compliments, but with the challenge to get your eyes off of yourself and celebrate & serve someone else.

Because we only envy when we fix our eyes on the mirror reflecting ourselves, instead of being a mirror that reflects authentic love to the women in our lives.

The bottom line is this: you can either envy someone or encourage someone. Every time you begin to envy them, encourage them instead.

So here’s to the friends whose beauty truly rests in building one another up in love. Because that’s what matters, that’s what lasts, anyway.

Overcoming Jealousy

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I'm Jordan Lee Dooley. I'm just a simple Indiana girl, writing, speaking, and handing out free hugs left and right. In college, I started a blog called SoulScripts, just for fun, and to speak life and truth into any peers that might have stumbled upon it. I never imagined it'd end up reaching hundreds of thousands, turn into books, speaking, and more. But hey, it's true: when you just say yes to God right where you are, He does more than you could ever ask or imagine. Let's help you find your yes and start walk in your gifting, too. Sound good?