Does your work life support your overall life values and priorities?
Woah, that’s a heavy question. So let’s park here for just a second.
Have you ever thought to ask yourself this question? I feel like sometimes it can be the other way around – that we try to arrange our personal lives around our work lives.
And yes, don’t get me wrong, sister. There are seasons where certain things are inevitable and bills have to paid. And there are seasons of building where our time and priorities may feel a bit off-balanced.
And yet – we do live in a time and generation where there are fewer barriers to entry of starting your own business – that could perhaps lead to a work life that is centered around your personal life values and goals.
To help frame this mindset and put some tangibility behind these statements, I’ve brought on my friends, Cassie and Shay. These two ladies are changing the name of the game of what the ‘real world’ looks like.
They are the creators of Bucketlist Bombshells – their 6-figure business that helps women begin their online business by teaching them the strategy and steps to work remotely.
Cassie and Shay booked a one-way ticket to Mexico, met at a coffee shop, and started an online business with no client list, no experience, and not a ton of direction initially. Pretty fearless, huh?
So if you can relate to the feeling of starting small and could borrow a little inspiration, you’re in for a treat because these ladies are dishing their best advice and experience on how YOU can begin your online business. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Sister, even if you’re not looking to start your own business from home, you’ll want to tune in for tangible advice on why you shouldn’t wait to start something until you feel ready and how to respectfully disagree with others at work or life in general.
Cassie and Shay are breaking the mold of what the ‘real world’ looks like and paving the way for the next generation of location, independent women. Won’t you join them?
And if you’d like more from Cassie & Shay, check out their 4-Day Launch Your Online Biz Bootcamp, with a unique code just for you:https://bucketlistbombshells.com/shepodcast.
Have you ever had a coworker that just kind of feels like sandpaper when you chat with them? You find yourself ditching and dodging away from them on your way to the bathroom or coffee area?
Or perhaps, even worse, you have a friendship that has gone down this route. Somehow your conversations with Nancy now only include negative things and it’s a bit tiring, ya know?
Sister, if you can relate, you’re not alone. It’s totally normal (and human) to not get along with everyone. Because, sometimes, people are just flat out difficult. And, if you’re anything like me, “occasionally” (don’t ask me to define how often ‘occasionally’ means in my household 🙂 ) I’m the culprit that’s being the crabby pants, difficult one.
But, it’s how you navigate these relationships that will result in the negativity not overtaking all your conversations and sucking your emotional capacity. So whether it’s a friendship, working relationship, in-laws, or spouse – I believe the solution to difficult people lies in shifting your mindset as well as your actions.
My absolute, #1 tip in how to deal with difficult people is
Not to ‘deal’ with them at all, but to ‘love’ them instead.
Let me tell you what I mean. Begin to swap out the word DEAL for LOVE and see how your heart and actions start to change.
You ‘deal’ with muddy, puppy paws, or you ‘deal’ with an unorganized house. You LOVE a person – even if they are difficult. You love them because you love people, you don’t deal with them.
I firmly believe when you swap out your mindset for ‘how can I love this person’ from ‘how can I deal with this difficult person’ – your empathy goes way up, which results in a much more lovely response to them.
In this episode, I dive into this and more on how to navigate those difficult people in your life. You’ll learn:
Sister, you’ll continue to encounter difficult people, so when you do, try to remember: The problem is not you, even if it is taken out on you. This helps to keep a clear mind and heart, and begin to take steps to the best, possible outcome from this relationship.
As mentioned, I’ve done other episode on friendships and navigating dating relationships. If you’d like more on that topic, here are the specific episodes mentioned:
I’d still consider myself a newlywed (by the way – what’s the appropriate time when you stop considering yourself one? Just a side note- asking for a friend), but it was just a few years ago that I was newly married – as in, just a few days into the marriage thing.
I was coming off of the best day with my best friend. I was also in a season where I began to get serious about growing my business and things were movin and shakin. My writing was flourishing and I really felt I was stepping into alignment with my giftings.
But sister, if you were to ask me today what I remember most about that season, it would be that my cystic acne was out of control, my eye lashes were falling out from the fake ones I tried to use to distract from my skin, and the make up I was using was entirely too heavy to cover up my ‘blemishes.’
Yep. THAT’S what I remember.
Needless to say, my confidence was at an all time low. Despite all of the goodness that season held.
What a shame that the feelings of insecurity interrupt and distort our perspective of reality. I wish I could go back in time and tell that insecure girl, ‘J – this will be one of your best and most growing seasons. You won’t get this time back, and the things you are worrying about – don’t matter.
And you know who would agree with me on this?
My friend, influencer, and fashion brand founder, Dani Austin. I’m tired of comparison and lack of confidence stealing our memories, our joy, and our ability to grow. So I decided to bring Dani in on this one because she is the definition of a sassy overcomer and comparison kicker.
In this episode we chat about:
Sis, if you feel overwhelmed, lacking confidence, drowning in comparison, and unsure how to gain control over your time – this episode is sure to bring you some clarity. So pull up a seat and let’s tackle this together.
Dating is hard.
But throw a few thousand miles between the relationship? Feels nearly impossible.
Sister, I’ve been there. When I was dating my now husband, Matt, we moved from being in the same city, to long distance, to being married and living together, to doing the long distance marriage thing for again awhile.
And let me tell ya – it wasn’t easy. Especially when we didn’t even see the next season of ‘distance’ in our future again.
While that season isn’t exactly one I’d wish back into my life – there are so many things I learned from that season that I now bring into my marriage.
If you’ve ever been far away from someone you love, you know, you have to be so much more intentional with your time and communication. And I’ll be honest, I can sometimes take for granted having the luxury of my husband living in the same house with me and slack on the intentionality of our conversations and date nights.
So there are definitely times that I will pull out tips and tricks to keep the relationship intimacy turned to a 10 that I learned during our long distance season.
Audrey began dating her now husband in a long distance relationship. The way they stayed in touch? Love letters. Yep, the long lost art of letter writing.
While this may sound like a story line out of a movie, Audrey is here to tell you that this can also become your reality. Listen in as Audrey chats through the struggles, the triumphs, and lessons learned from her time of long distance dating and how to
illuminate parts of your past to clear the way to dream up your future.
Sister, if you find yourself in a long distance relationship at the moment, we know the struggle. One piece of advice Audrey would give?
Find something to share in with your significant other.
Whether you both listen to the same podcast, read the same book, or cook the same meal and FaceTime while tasting your masterpiece – find something to share together.
We are rooting on you and your relationship over here! That is, if it’s a healthy one! Be sure to also listen in to find out the embarrassing, but extremely helpful, question my mom used to ask my boyfriends to help evaluate their character.
I can’t wait to see your long distance relationships flourish after listening to this episode!
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Are you feeling contentment in your relationships and passions?
Or complacent in your work and dreams?
While they are wildly different in nature, they can feel weirdly similar at times. So it’s a hard line to find, my friend.
In a culture that promotes hustle and celebrates busy-ness, it’s difficult to find REST – especially when you’re mutli-passionate and naturally a go-getter.
So I’m here to tell you – I STRUGGLE WITH IT, TOO, SISTER.
I’m an Enneagram 3. If that doesn’t mean anything to ya, you’re not alone because it didn’t use too much to me either. The Enneagram is sort of like a personality assessment, but it focuses more on your motivations and fears behind your behavior so you can identify your thought patterns that eventually lead to behavior patterns. There are nine different numbers, so you should for sure check it out if you haven’t yet to see what number you are.
Anywho, I’m an Enneagram 3 which is called The Achiever. Sounds pretty good on the outside, right? Well what this can mean is that I can go-go-go, and can pretty much sustain that lifestyle more than most…until I can’t. And then let’s just call on the unhealthy behavior to take a front row seat in life.
So even if you’re not an Enneagram 3, I’m wondering if you can relate to this routine of hustle and image maintenance – while simultaneously wrestling with self doubt.
I wanted to share about this in this episode to let you know you aren’t alone if you feel like you ‘should’ be doing more, or ‘you’re missing out’ on something because you aren’t constantly ‘achieving’ something.
Because the truth is: you’re not. Let’s slow down together, sister.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
– What can be created when you just give yourself time to be ‘bored’,
– Why it’s necessary to actually acknowledge and celebrate your wins, and
– How to help a friend who may have hustle habits.
And just to make sure I didn’t leave out any blindspots on my own quirks, I brought my husband on this episode to help me out. Because who doesn’t love giving their spouse a free pass to expose some of your unhealthy tendencies?!
Sister, I hope this encourages you to find the joy in the small things and take this as your permission to slow down. Because who knows what you’ll create when you do.
If you’d like more insight on how to find more space in your day, check out my episode with Jessica Turner.
Does the fear of wasting time keep you from fully investing into a new project or idea?
Do you feel that your path is so NOT linear that your life story will never make sense?
When you’re multi-passionate or risk averse, it can feel really scary to begin something and not know the outcome.
And don’t get me started on the lies that fear wrap up as truths in our hearts.
So, sister, if you can relate, this episode is for you.
I brought on a gal who knows a thing or two about walking through different seasons and gaining different skillsets – all while staring down the face of fear. Meet Jessica Honegger. She is an award-winning social entrepreneur, the founder and co-CEO of the fashion impact brand, Noonday Collection, and author of the book Imperfect Courage.
What I love about this episode is that while Jessica has that long list of accomplishments tied to her hard work, she breaks down the fear she felt with each decision and why she decided to stop covering up her beginnings and instead embrace them to share with others.
Before founding Noonday, Jessica experienced a diverse journey from real estate to working in a jewelry store. Sound familiar at all to your story?
She shares how the picture was never clear when in the middle of each season, but acknowledges how absolutely nothing was wasted as she turned each of these skillsets into a company with a huge impact.
So if you’re over there like, ‘My skillsets don’t overlap! What do I do with this concoction of experience?!’ – we have your back.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
– The importance of deciding NOW that your WHY is worth the RISK,
– Why courage isn’t actually about fearlessness,
– How the tapestry of your life is being beautifully woven together, you just can’t see it yet; and
– The Sisterhood Effect mindset you need to adapt ASAP.
And if you need a little more motivation today to push through your season of beginning, check out the episode on how I got started into all of this here.
Or if you struggle with a little something called Imposter Syndrome when starting out, got your back on that as well here.
Did you also hear about my BOOK that’s coming out?! For the deepest dive into overcoming fear and stepping into what you were made to do, make sure you pre-order my book HERE. Pre-order bonuses to be revealed SO SOON.
Did you have an unhealthy view of marriage growing up?
Do you rely on the attention of men to fill you up?
Do you ever feel that you are the worst wife on the face of the planet?
Sister, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
As I stepped into marriage with excitement in my heart and butterflies in my stomach, I was hit with a bit of harsh reality right away during these first, few years.
A reality that no one told me about ahead of time – but wished they had.
As ‘normal life’ began settle in after the big day, I began finding myself losing my cool one, too many times with my husband. And then I started to feel SO badly about myself. I began to think,
‘I know I’m the only one dealing with this. I can’t talk to anyone because they won’t understand.’
Turns out, I was wrong. I wasn’t the only one.
And neither are you.
And just to prove to you that you aren’t on an island out there in newlywed struggle land, I’ve brought in some back up for this episode. Meet my dear friend, Manda Carpenter. She’s an author, speaker, coach, and happens to be one of the most real and authentic people you’ll meet.
In this episode, Manda and I open up about the early years of marriage. How marriage is the best decision we’ve ever made – and also how we found ourselves struggling with what we assumed would magically go away once we had both those rings on our fingers.
Example? Manda keeps it real when she chats about how she still desired the attention of other men – even after the ceremony.
WOAH. Talk about some honesty. And relatability.
Because the truth is,
So sister, strap up for this one. You’ll learn:
….and maybe even feel that you understand your man a bit more.
I wanted to have this conversation because I don’t know of anyone else that is. Newlywed years are hard, but so worth it. And we are here to remind you of that. And just how not alone you really are.
And if you desire full depth on these stories and more, be sure to pre-order my book here!
Have you ever felt torn between wanting to process through a problem, but not be gossipy about the situation in the meantime?
Do you worry that you’ll hurt feelings if you share frustrations with a third party, but then also be left without a resolution to the problem?
You’re not alone in this, sister.
It’s a fine line between problem solving and the sneaky, little thing called gossip. However, an answer can be found from asking yourself a few, honest, and hard-hitting questions.
First, always consider the environment in which you are speaking about the topic at hand – do these friends have a vested interest in solving the resolution?
Then continue on and ask yourself,
If you find the topic is the person, rather than the problem you’re trying to solve – then there may a problem with the conversation you’re having. Aka- gossip.
Friend, we were created to lift each other up and honor one another. And you are so capable of that – even in tough situations where gossip tries to take over. Never stop pursuing excellence in all of your conversations!
In today’s episode you’ll hear how I answer the question from a follower, Sophie, ‘How do I avoid gossip?’ In this Ask J series, you’ll learn:
Friendships are such an essential part of life, so check out these other episodes on identifying healthy friendships if you’d like more on this topic:
Share these episodes with those closest to you to lift each other up. Thank a friend today that you know always has your character and heart in mind with each word they speak.
And if you’re interested on how to not let gossip or the pressure of others get the way of making your mark in the world, check out my book, sister. You’ll find all this and more here.
Can you believe it was only two months ago that we were ringing in the New Year, 2018 turned into 2019, and it was time to tackle all of those New Year’s goals?
It feels equally like 10 years have passed, and no time at all.
How are those goals you scribbled down into your journal going? Was one of them to get into shape? Work out more? Eat healthier?
Whether you are smashin those fitness resolutions or maybe more slackin on them – no judgements here, sister, but I do have an episode for you to put that pep back in your step.
To get us all back on track, I pulled in the best of the best. She’s an author, former U.S. Marine (yep!), and the expert trainer behind Carrie Underwood’s legendary legs: Erin Oprea. She’s here to whip our butts into shape and teach us a thing or two about drive, perseverance, and effective work outs.
Erin Oprea is one tough cookie, let me tell ya. Not only does she now train some of the fittest names in country music, but this woman also made history when she was appointed to lead the first female platoon attached to the infantry in a war zone. WHAT. What can this woman not do?!
Ladies, you’ll leave this episode equally equipped and motivated from Erin’s story and knowledge. Listen in for:
And we are here to remind all of you:
Whether it’s our fitness journey, business endeavor, or career goals: there will be ups, down, failures, and successes –it’s those lows you’ll need to push through to experience those successes.
And the best part?
YOU get to define what success looks like for you. No matter the number on the scale, no matter the opinion of others, no matter what society tells you.
Sister, you are worthy and capable of breaking any limitations placed on you by yourself or others. Wake up, drink your new beet juice recipe, and get your mindset ready for the day.
PS – Check out my Instagram stories for Erin’s beet juice recipe!!
Does your pulse start to race a bit higher when the word ‘finances’ is brought up in a conversation?
Personally, I HATE spreadsheets. So the thought of creating a budget makes my skin crawl a little bit. Thankfully, my husband is better in this department than I am, but at the end of the day – it’s a team effort in marriage.
Love it or hate it – saving, budgeting, and investing are a large part of life as responsibilities continue to pile up.
401k?! Roth?! Is there such thing as good debt?
What if I love to shop? Should I merge bank accounts with my husband?
If these questions have ever come to your mind, or even if you’re over there not sure what half of those terms mean – you’re in the right place, sister.
I decided to bring on #1 NYT Best Seller author, podcaster, and money expert, Rachel Cruze, to set it all straight and let us in on her best, healthy money mindset and practices.
Being brought up in a household where finances were openly chatted about (spoiler alert: Rachel is Dave Ramsey’s daughter), Rachel knows a thing a two about money management – so be ready to jot down a lotttt of notes.
In this episode you’ll learn practical ways to start saving your cashola right this minute, when exactly is the right time to begin saving for retirement (it’s more interesting than it sounds), and how to balance all of this with one of Rachel’s favorite activities: shopping.
What I love about Rachel’s approach with saving money and paying off debt is that she doesn’t just keep it straight factual – she also touches on the emotional and spiritual impact of money. So if you’ve felt the emotional weight of debt or spiritual effect of over-spending, you have a safe space here, sister.
Be sure to listen to the end where we chat about Rachel’s perspective on merging bank accounts with your spouse and her best, app recommendations to help you with that saving.
Money freedom is waiting for you, gal. It’s time to begin your healthy relationship with your finances.