There have been seasons when I look around – and I see friends and family just killin it in their careers and making big leaps forward in life. And while I’m so excited for them and cheering them on, it does make me step back and feel as if I’m over here walking in circles without direction.
Can you relate?
That feeling of being lost, not sure what to do next – can make you feel like you’ve made all the wrong decisions. Or even worse – keep you from making any decision at all.
Sister, I so see you in that. But to this I say:
You don’t have to remain feeling as if you’re swirling because the truth is, we all feel a little that way most days. But it’s the steps you take – despite that feeling – is what will propel you forward and out of that feeling.
The first step after stewarding what is in front you, is to ask yourself,
Don’t write off your own gifts, passions, and abilities. Because they were uniquely crafted, created, and given just to you.
Listen in to today’s episode for my other three tips on how lose the feeling that you are shooting in the dark and step forward with intention.
It’s time to blast through your excuses and confusion, and begin to walk in clarity to your next chapter.
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Ever feel that you are merely attempting to look confident, rather than actually being confident?
It can be easy to lose yourself in the process of the image you are trying to portray- rather than actually being the person you want to be.
Sister, it’s time to kick the insecurities by facing them head on – and this is the episode to help you do just that. Listen in to grab a sneak peek of Chapter 3 from my book, Own Your Everyday. Together, we’ll lessen the distractions from the life you were made for.
I hope you find yourself laughing from quirky stories while also transforming from the mindset shifts you’re about to experience.
It’s time to break ground to break the barriers and step into a lifestyle of owning the responsibility of your insecurity, making a plan on how to respond, and digging into the dirt rather than covering it up.
It’s time to step into the women you were made to be.
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Sister, let me start out by saying that today’s episode is a story of a gal who embodied stepping into your purpose, before you have everything figured out. She saw a need in her local community and began impacting the lives of those around her through a prison ministry. It wasn’t a hidden purpose she needed to find – she simply began where she was, with what she had, and just…started.
We could all learn a lesson or two on how she – Carlee – impacted the lives of others. Carlee was part of our community and would proudly wear the Your Brokenness Is Welcome Here sweatshirts. Tragically, Carlee passed last November in a car accident. But not before she began leaving her impactful legacy.
On today’s episode, I had the honor of chatting with Patti, Carlee’s mother, about Carlee’s legacy, what the Your Brokenness is Welcome Here movement meant to her, and how she has picked up with the prison ministry where Carlee left off. Patti is so strong and such a steadfast spirit and has witnessed the prison ministry grow exponentially over the last few months.
I was so touched when Carlee’s family reached out, and they have been such a blessing to me. Their story truly puts life’s priorities into perspective and continues to ground me.
Sister, I’m here for you to pursue your big dreams and aspirations – but I don’t want you to miss the lives you can impact in the here and now. Your purpose isn’t something that is lost, nor is it something you need to wait to stumble upon. You can serve, help, and impact others through the simple, non-fancy actions in your everyday life.
Carlee’s story has so touched my heart and I know it will for yours, too.
Ever feel that you can’t simply ‘unplug’ from work? What if there is an emergency? And someone needs you? Maybe your boss sent you one last email that you need to answer?
Whether you work from an office, create in a studio, raise the kiddos at home, or complete tasks remotely – we can be constantly connected to the lifeline of our phones and computer.
And yet – life continues on. And will pass us by if we aren’t careful.
So how the heck are ya supposed to complete your to-do list while also being present once the work day is over?
Well, it starts with some boundaries my friend.
One of my go-to tips is probably the opposite of what you want to dive into first thing in the morning to cross off the list – emails.
When you start off with emails, it will make you feel as if you didn’t accomplish any actual tasks. And it places you in a reactive posture, rather than a proactive one, to start off your day or your week.
Listen in to today’s episode as I walk through a handful of other boundaries I set to make sure I turn the work off and become present with my friends and family.
This episode is sure to help set the boundaries you need to live the present life you desire, sister.
Ever get a little squirmy when the topic of money pops up?
Ya know, that little pit in your stomach that makes you just unsettled enough to wish that feeling wouldn’t come back?
I’m with ya, sister.
I’ve been there. And so have a lot of others.
Money can be a tough topic for anyone. But it doesn’t have to be any longer.
Listen in to today’s episode for the gals who need a mindset shift, along with tangible tips on saving, spending, and how to make a little, extra cashola on the side.
Something you can start off with even today:
What is something that you can swap right NOW that is more in the ‘luxury’ category of your life? Maybe the $6 latte from Starbucks that has become part of your morning routine? Or the monthly subscription membership that you forgot to cancel?
I bet once you put your mind on it, you’ll find a handful of areas where you can start saving – and therefore increase that number in your account.
And if you’re more in need of making a bit more – I have ya covered there, too. There are some tangible tips and a personal funny story that I can’t wait for you to hear in this episode. Spoiler alert: it’s the full story behind the creative way I made a little money in college that includes waffles. Because who doesn’t love waffles?!
Let me know on Instagram if YOU have a funny story on a creative and passionate way you were able to create a side income so others can be inspired, too!
Sometimes we receive really, exceptional feedback that helps propel us along further to our dreams.
And sometimes we receive really, damaging and destructive feedback that can stop us in our tracks.
Either way: keep going. Keep going after your goals.
Easier said than done, I know.
Words hold power, certainly, but you get to decide just how much.
You see, the negative comment can turn into more fuel. More passion. More drive. To attain your end goal. To achieve your next breakthrough.
Will this be a process? Absolutely. Will it be worth it? Absolutely.
And no one knows this quite as well as my new friend, Kamilah Marshall. I could go on and on about all the things this girl has accomplished from singing on Broadway to releasing her own album to performing as a back up vocalist for Taylor Swift (fan girling over here) – but she didn’t get there without her fair share of emotional work and mindset shifting.
Kamilah always loved to sing, but when she was told at the young age of 11 that she just ‘wasn’t good enough’ – those words had a lasting effect on her. For YEARS I might add. It was the tape that replayed in her mind. The limiting belief painted into her thoughts.
But she was able to take that feeling of insecurity and turn it into a deeper drive toward her goals. And so can you. Her biggest piece of advice on this?
And I couldn’t agree with her more. Let your internal drive outweigh the fear of stepping into something new.
So, the next time someone gives you a less than ideal piece of ‘advice’ – filter it, sister. Because your gifts are much too valuable to be squelched by one false comment.
Does your work life support your overall life values and priorities?
Woah, that’s a heavy question. So let’s park here for just a second.
Have you ever thought to ask yourself this question? I feel like sometimes it can be the other way around – that we try to arrange our personal lives around our work lives.
And yes, don’t get me wrong, sister. There are seasons where certain things are inevitable and bills have to paid. And there are seasons of building where our time and priorities may feel a bit off-balanced.
And yet – we do live in a time and generation where there are fewer barriers to entry of starting your own business – that could perhaps lead to a work life that is centered around your personal life values and goals.
To help frame this mindset and put some tangibility behind these statements, I’ve brought on my friends, Cassie and Shay. These two ladies are changing the name of the game of what the ‘real world’ looks like.
They are the creators of Bucketlist Bombshells – their 6-figure business that helps women begin their online business by teaching them the strategy and steps to work remotely.
Cassie and Shay booked a one-way ticket to Mexico, met at a coffee shop, and started an online business with no client list, no experience, and not a ton of direction initially. Pretty fearless, huh?
So if you can relate to the feeling of starting small and could borrow a little inspiration, you’re in for a treat because these ladies are dishing their best advice and experience on how YOU can begin your online business. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Sister, even if you’re not looking to start your own business from home, you’ll want to tune in for tangible advice on why you shouldn’t wait to start something until you feel ready and how to respectfully disagree with others at work or life in general.
Cassie and Shay are breaking the mold of what the ‘real world’ looks like and paving the way for the next generation of location, independent women. Won’t you join them?
And if you’d like more from Cassie & Shay, check out their 4-Day Launch Your Online Biz Bootcamp, with a unique code just for you:https://bucketlistbombshells.com/shepodcast.
Have you ever had a coworker that just kind of feels like sandpaper when you chat with them? You find yourself ditching and dodging away from them on your way to the bathroom or coffee area?
Or perhaps, even worse, you have a friendship that has gone down this route. Somehow your conversations with Nancy now only include negative things and it’s a bit tiring, ya know?
Sister, if you can relate, you’re not alone. It’s totally normal (and human) to not get along with everyone. Because, sometimes, people are just flat out difficult. And, if you’re anything like me, “occasionally” (don’t ask me to define how often ‘occasionally’ means in my household 🙂 ) I’m the culprit that’s being the crabby pants, difficult one.
But, it’s how you navigate these relationships that will result in the negativity not overtaking all your conversations and sucking your emotional capacity. So whether it’s a friendship, working relationship, in-laws, or spouse – I believe the solution to difficult people lies in shifting your mindset as well as your actions.
My absolute, #1 tip in how to deal with difficult people is
Not to ‘deal’ with them at all, but to ‘love’ them instead.
Let me tell you what I mean. Begin to swap out the word DEAL for LOVE and see how your heart and actions start to change.
You ‘deal’ with muddy, puppy paws, or you ‘deal’ with an unorganized house. You LOVE a person – even if they are difficult. You love them because you love people, you don’t deal with them.
I firmly believe when you swap out your mindset for ‘how can I love this person’ from ‘how can I deal with this difficult person’ – your empathy goes way up, which results in a much more lovely response to them.
In this episode, I dive into this and more on how to navigate those difficult people in your life. You’ll learn:
Sister, you’ll continue to encounter difficult people, so when you do, try to remember: The problem is not you, even if it is taken out on you. This helps to keep a clear mind and heart, and begin to take steps to the best, possible outcome from this relationship.
As mentioned, I’ve done other episode on friendships and navigating dating relationships. If you’d like more on that topic, here are the specific episodes mentioned:
I’d still consider myself a newlywed (by the way – what’s the appropriate time when you stop considering yourself one? Just a side note- asking for a friend), but it was just a few years ago that I was newly married – as in, just a few days into the marriage thing.
I was coming off of the best day with my best friend. I was also in a season where I began to get serious about growing my business and things were movin and shakin. My writing was flourishing and I really felt I was stepping into alignment with my giftings.
But sister, if you were to ask me today what I remember most about that season, it would be that my cystic acne was out of control, my eye lashes were falling out from the fake ones I tried to use to distract from my skin, and the make up I was using was entirely too heavy to cover up my ‘blemishes.’
Yep. THAT’S what I remember.
Needless to say, my confidence was at an all time low. Despite all of the goodness that season held.
What a shame that the feelings of insecurity interrupt and distort our perspective of reality. I wish I could go back in time and tell that insecure girl, ‘J – this will be one of your best and most growing seasons. You won’t get this time back, and the things you are worrying about – don’t matter.
And you know who would agree with me on this?
My friend, influencer, and fashion brand founder, Dani Austin. I’m tired of comparison and lack of confidence stealing our memories, our joy, and our ability to grow. So I decided to bring Dani in on this one because she is the definition of a sassy overcomer and comparison kicker.
In this episode we chat about:
Sis, if you feel overwhelmed, lacking confidence, drowning in comparison, and unsure how to gain control over your time – this episode is sure to bring you some clarity. So pull up a seat and let’s tackle this together.
Dating is hard.
But throw a few thousand miles between the relationship? Feels nearly impossible.
Sister, I’ve been there. When I was dating my now husband, Matt, we moved from being in the same city, to long distance, to being married and living together, to doing the long distance marriage thing for again awhile.
And let me tell ya – it wasn’t easy. Especially when we didn’t even see the next season of ‘distance’ in our future again.
While that season isn’t exactly one I’d wish back into my life – there are so many things I learned from that season that I now bring into my marriage.
If you’ve ever been far away from someone you love, you know, you have to be so much more intentional with your time and communication. And I’ll be honest, I can sometimes take for granted having the luxury of my husband living in the same house with me and slack on the intentionality of our conversations and date nights.
So there are definitely times that I will pull out tips and tricks to keep the relationship intimacy turned to a 10 that I learned during our long distance season.
Audrey began dating her now husband in a long distance relationship. The way they stayed in touch? Love letters. Yep, the long lost art of letter writing.
While this may sound like a story line out of a movie, Audrey is here to tell you that this can also become your reality. Listen in as Audrey chats through the struggles, the triumphs, and lessons learned from her time of long distance dating and how to
illuminate parts of your past to clear the way to dream up your future.
Sister, if you find yourself in a long distance relationship at the moment, we know the struggle. One piece of advice Audrey would give?
Find something to share in with your significant other.
Whether you both listen to the same podcast, read the same book, or cook the same meal and FaceTime while tasting your masterpiece – find something to share together.
We are rooting on you and your relationship over here! That is, if it’s a healthy one! Be sure to also listen in to find out the embarrassing, but extremely helpful, question my mom used to ask my boyfriends to help evaluate their character.
I can’t wait to see your long distance relationships flourish after listening to this episode!
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