I remember the pit in my stomach, the feeling I had the night before he left — trying to savor each second, knowing that every moment that passed took us closer to saying goodbye… to what seemed like perpetual long distance.
He was heading to the other side of the country to start the next chapter in his life and I was staying behind, where our story together had started.
We didn’t know how long we’d be apart, or what would happen next. And it killed me. The next morning, a lump formed in my throat and my eyes welled up with tears as i wrapped my arms around his neck and buried my head in his shoulder.
I can’t remember how long we stood there embracing but I did wish it wouldn’t end. I tried to remember exactly what he smelled like and the way his beard scratched he side of my face when we hugged.
Girls, I know how hard it is to say goodbye. Whether you’re heading to college or sending him off to bootcamp or feeling that odd tension of excitement over a new opportunity while simultaneously feeling sadness over the way it takes you away from each other.
By the grace of God, we got through that long distance season and today I’m honestly grateful for it. But to those of you who may be about to enter into it or are currently facing it, here are a few things to help:
1. It is okay that it is hard. That makes it worth it.
2. Set date nights. Seriously. Pick a designated time once or twice a week where you’ll call or FaceTime and share a meal at the same time, or watch a movie together, or workout at the same time. You can still do things “together” if you get creative and intentional.
3. Be old fashioned. Write letters and send them to each other. Something tangible creates a connection technology cannot.
4. Instead of seeing this season as something to endure, make it something to enjoy. Look at it as a time to learn new things about the other. Make it your mission to learn 3-4 interesting new things about your person each week. Write them down so you remember and can look back as the weeks add up!
Remember that this is part of your story and if God has you together in the end, then really cherish this chapter before you get to happily ever after.
September 28, 2018