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I'm an Indiana girl who started a small Etsy shop side hustle in college and grew it into a nationally recognized personal brand. I love writing, educating, and raising chickens with my husband. I'm here to help other multi-passionate, ambitious women (like you!) own their everyday and reach their potential, too!

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Dream together. These two words have defined Matt and I’s life for over a year now and I couldn’t be more thankful for the day our marriage mentors asked us, “Have you guys ever thought to dream together…?”

We both looked at each other and said, “No, we haven’t, but maybe we should!”

Then, a few weeks later, while on a flight to New York City, we decided to have a Dooley Dream Date. Matt and I literally pulled out a notebook and just started answering questions like, “What do we want for our family?” and, “What kind of work do we really want to do?”

We were at a point in our life where we were both so busy yet feeling pulled in opposite directions. And this exercise helped us see that we were ready to join together when it came to our careers, and helped us set clear goals for the years to come for ourselves.

If you’re interested in having a Dream Date of your own, tune in to this episode to hear several more of the questions that we answered on this epic date on a plane.

You might be debating joining your partners entrepreneurial journey, simply trying to be supportive and understand each other’s careers, or just wanting to learn some tangible ways to work better together as a team.

This exercise that Matt and I went through will be helpful for you regardless which situation you currently find yourself in.

Whether you’re working together on a business or not, you’re still working on life together, and we both know it’s crucial to fully understand each other’s dreams and together create your future vision.

HOW WE HANDLED FINANCIAL DECISION

I had to bring this up because it’s a question we’re asked all the time, and I totally understand why.

We knew that the stability we had from Matt’s 9-5 was going to disappear if we chose to go all in on the entrepreneur journey together, but we both also knew that him coming on board and helping in areas that truly needed him, getting his perspective, was going to be life changing. 

Step 1. We planned ahead, we cut costs that weren’t necessary and put away about six months worth of expenses so we could simplify and take some time to build something together

Step 2. We figured out the right health insurance for us, and we’d recommend it over and over again. Tune in to learn more about the route we’ve chosen.

EVERYTHING COMES FULL CIRCLE

Sometimes you don’t know what the picture’s going to be or how it’s going to eb and flow, or how it’s going to come full circle but now, not even a full year into this journey, we’re beginning to see it.

We are noticing how much progress has been made through that step of faith, of Matt joining me 100% and making this thing ours.

The best part? Because of this decision we made together, Matt is now starting his own coaching and consulting business and so much more – more of what his dream was over a year ago. 

One thing I constantly say is that when you love someone, their dreams become your dreams.

For years, when we were dating, engaged, and first married, we chased Matt’s NFL dream as a team.

Then, when God showed us that wasn’t our path, and my brand began to grow rapidly online, and we realized it may be time to chase a new dream as a team.

And it has taught us so much about why God created roles in marriage. A marriage is a team, and when whether or not you’re in business together, when you’re willing to serve your role – whether that’s in the lead or behind the scenes – you both win.

NOW WHAT?

Listen to Matt and I talk about every step we took along the way and how much we’ve learned. We bring up an exercise that helps couples decide whether it’s smart to work together, let you know exactly which health care company we use, and even give you a glimpse of our daily life (you know the parts where Matt teases me every ten minutes, yeah it’s a good laugh). So hop on now. 

My recommendation? Listen to this one with your significant other, watch their reactions, and hit the pause button when that light bulb turns on, this can be amazing to do together!

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I’m just going to put this out there. Routine is really hard when your life is anything but consistent. 

Over the last year, I’ve been on more planes than I can count. 

Whether it was for a speaking gig, our business mastermind, book tour, or media… it has been an endless year of airport security, tiny airplane bathrooms, hotel beds, and living out of suitcases. 

Is it fun? Yes. 

Is it exhausting? Also yes. 

Due to my travel-heavy lifestyle in recent years, most don’t realize I’m actually quite the home body. 

Growing up, I always wanted friends to come to MY house to hang out. Having to get ready and go somewhere just wasn’t my cup of tea. 

I’m serious, I don’t even like going to the movies as an adult. I mean, why so much effort when we can watch movies from home in our PJ’s? 

I don’t know, maybe it’s because I’m very goal oriented and when I’m on the go, it sometimes feels hard to focus on and make any kind of progress on my goals. 

But this year has left me no choice. And I’ve had to learn how to make it work. We’re improving… slowly. 

That said, I’m often asked how I maintain routines and keep my faith a priority when I’m seemingly ALWAYS on the go. 

My answer? It’s not easy. 

But I’ve also had to take my control-freak nature out of the picture for a hot second and think about ‘routines’ differently. 

Routines aren’t limiting or only for seasons of life when everything happens to be consistent and controllable. 

In fact, rhythms and routines are practices designed to bring consistency to our chaos…

And what’s more chaotic than sleeping in different beds and living out of suitcases every week? 

While it’s a challenge to have perfectly consistent bed times and daily workout times when every day seems to be spent in different time zones, I’ve found a few ways to keep first things first and build in routines even in the life of a traveler. 

Because at the end of the day, it all comes down to choice. 

So, that said, the first thing I had to do was establish 1-3 daily non-negotiables. 

I chose two. 

  1. Quiet time with God every morning
  2. Prayer with my husband every night before bed 

These are two simple things I can do consistently, neither of which take very long. 

I’d love to tell you I workout every single day on the road at the exact same time and never miss a meal or any of that. But that’d  be a lie and just not realistic. 

So, I picked two things I want to make sure I do consistently every single morning and evening regardless of where I am or which time zone I’m in. 

Every morning, whether I wake up in California, New York, or at home, I can spend the first 10-20 minutes in silence, over coffee or tea, with God.

Sometimes that looks like reading the Bible or a devotional. Other times that looks like just sitting on a hotel patio and being still — in prayer or thought — observing what’s happening in the moment. 

The coffee/tea piece may seem unnecessary but having a warm drink in my hand is something that creates consistency. It’s part of a rhythm, it’s physical, and simple enough to stick to wherever I am. 

This is something my friend, Jeff Bethke, talks about in his new book, To Hell with the Hustle (which I highly recommend) and that my friend, Rebekah Lyons, also dives into in her book, Rhythms of Renewal (also incredible).

Regarding prayer with my husband: This is a discipline we both committed to do every night before bed regardless of whether we’re in our own bed or not, together or apart. 

If we’re apart, we call and pray over the phone. 

It’s usually no more than 2-3 minutes. We’re not fancy prayers. But we pray rougher. And it’s a rhythm we can do wherever we are. 

The bottom line here is that routines look different in different seasons. Sometimes we can eat and workout and go to bed at the same time every single day and sometimes that’s just not all that realistic. 

But there are things we can do to keep our priorities (such as our relationships or our faith) a priority regardless of where we are or how crazy life feels. 

Why? Because routines — even little ones — are designed to bring rhythm and consistency into our chaos. 

And when we choose to stick to them daily, our chaos is begins to feel less like stress and more like a blessing. 

Tell me in the comments below: how do you “own your everyday”? 

Ps. For more on making the most of everyday in the mundane and when life feels chaotic and insane, check out my book, Own Your Everyday.


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How I Keep My Quiet Time Routine When I Travel

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In honor of mental health week, in this episode, I chat with blogger, shop owner, and lovely human being, Hannah Morrison. We cover how to navigate transitions in life and business, people pleasing, and overcoming mental health challenges.

Are you worried that a new season of life — like marriage or kids — will hurt your career?

Are you facing battles with mental health and feeling alone in a hard transition?

We gotchu covered, girl. If you’ve ever felt the pressure to live up to an image of perfection, struggled with others’ opinions, or battled mental illness… pull up a chair and tune in for wisdom and encouragement.

Follow Hannah on IG here: @thecakebyhannah

How to Thrive In New Seasons Of Life and Navigate Mental Health

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This is for the woman who feels like she chose the wrong career path, or for the woman who’s considering making a change in her business.

If you know you want to do something different – whether that’s changing industries completely or taking your brand in a new direction – it can tough to know WHEN it’s time to make that leap.

In this episode, I share my best advice on knowing when is the time to make that leap! It’s all presented in a simple checklist format to make it easy for you to run through the list and make the right move with confidence.

Tune in to see if you’re at the place where it’s time to make a change – or if it may be wise to stick with what you’re doing a little longer.  

And as a Bonus Pro Tip: Consider your passions but don’t just pursue your passions. Pursue opportunity! Get the free training or enroll in the coaching program waitlist here: theownitacademy.com/kickstart

How To Know If It’s Time To Change Your Career or Pivot Your Business

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Hey sista, what’s a girl supposed to do when the next thing she’s feeling called to step into doesn’t clearly align with her degree, certifications, or experience?

Sound like you? Well, in this episode I tackle this question and provide you with my best tips on what to do if this happens to you! 

We also have a short quiz for you to take to find your next best move: https://bit.ly/2Lut4xc

When Your Calling Doesn’t Align With Your Credentials

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Hey girl, are you having trouble with patience as you work to gaining more experience in your career?

Are you trying to grow your career, but struggling with where you actually want to be?

Yeah? I get it.

In this episode, I am diving into the “millennial mindset” that you don’t have to work your way up, why we DON’T have to follow the status quo, and how we can show up even when we feel like we’re starting at 0.

Can’t wait for you to listen!

What To Do When You Feel Stuck In a Job You Don’t Love

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I’d still consider myself a newlywed (by the way – what’s the appropriate time when you stop considering yourself one? Just a side note- asking for a friend), but it was just a few years ago that I was newly married – as in, just a few days into the marriage thing.

I was coming off of the best day with my best friend. I was also in a season where I began to get serious about growing my business and things were movin and shakin. My writing was flourishing and I really felt I was stepping into alignment with my giftings.


But sister, if you were to ask me today what I remember most about that season, it would be that my cystic acne was out of control, my eye lashes were falling out from the fake ones I tried to use to distract from my skin, and the make up I was using was entirely too heavy to cover up my ‘blemishes.’


Yep. THAT’S what I remember.


Needless to say, my confidence was at an all time low. Despite all of the goodness that season held.


What a shame that the feelings of insecurity interrupt and distort our perspective of reality. I wish I could go back in time and tell that insecure girl, ‘J – this will be one of your best and most growing seasons. You won’t get this time back, and the things you are worrying about – don’t matter.

Stay present. Be intentional. And take the focus off of yourself.’


And you know who would agree with me on this?


My friend, influencer, and fashion brand founder, Dani Austin. I’m tired of comparison and lack of confidence stealing our memories, our joy, and our ability to grow. So I decided to bring Dani in on this one because she is the definition of a sassy overcomer and comparison kicker.


In this episode we chat about:

  • Where jealousy comes from and what to do with those feelings;
  • What to do when you begin to feel your confidence dropping;
  • How to not lose yourself in the midst of a busy schedule and competing priorities; and
  • What it looks like to set and communicate boundaries with loved ones.

Sis, if you feel overwhelmed, lacking confidence, drowning in comparison, and unsure how to gain control over your time – this episode is sure to bring you some clarity. So pull up a seat and let’s tackle this together.

How to Boost Your Confidence & Kick Comparison with Dani Austin

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Staying motivated is hard. I mean, think about it. There are A LOT of things to stay motivated to. Working out. Studying for exams. A promotion at work. A relationship milestone. Learning an instrument. The list goes on.

So with all these things swirling, it can be a tall order to remain focused to ensure our actions align with our priorities. And on top of all this, it’s easier than ever for our time to be distracted by things that aren’t exactly helping us remain committed to those goals (ahem, endless hours on Instagram). I feel you.

Sister, if you’ve ever had a goal just ready and waiting to be achieved, but you cant seem to muster up enough ‘motivation’ to follow through on it, I’ve got you covered in this ‘Ask J’ series kick off episode.

In this episode, I had a gal write in and asked ‘how do you remain motivated?’ Such a good question, friend, because it definitely takes some awareness and discipline. Tune in to learn my 7 best tips on the art of follow through that I put into practice every day- even when my ‘feelings of motivation’ tell me otherwise.

Sister, it’s time to align your priorities and behaviors to make those dreams become a reality. Do that work out. Run that marathon. Grab that promotion. Finish that Bible study. Ace that test.

With a few action oriented pieces of advice – paired with some vital mindset shifts- you’ll soon be amazing yourself with your productivity and ability to remain committed to your goals – intentionally, realistically, & simply.

Now go out there and kick those unmotivated feelings in the pants. Got it? 😉

 

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7 Tips to Stay Motivated & Follow Through When You Don’t Feel Like It

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If you’ve followed me for awhile now, you know that I’m pretty much a ‘what you see is what you get’ kind of gal. From sharing my unglamorous struggle with cystic acne (see episode here) to honestly chatting about frustrations in my marriage (spoiler alert: you’re not the only one- see episode here), you could say I’m an open book (with, of course, the exceptions of a few pieces of life that I love to keep sacred).

But there’s one, very special person in my life that you haven’t heard from before. A behind the scenes, gets the best and not so great parts of me, that is my first line of defense kind of person. You may be thinking ‘J! We’ve already heard from your husband, Matt!’ And you’re right – that’s because I’m talking about my powerhouse manager, Kacie.

She’s strong, she’s witty- and she knows pretty much everything about me. If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to work with me, this episode is your behind the scenes sneak peek you’ve been waiting for.

I loved recording this little, bonus episode with Kacie because you’ll hear just how much fun our team has together. And also because I share with you some embarrassing stories – like why I made my mom go wedding dress shopping *after* I had already purchased one.

As I chat with Kacie in this episode, I also talk through some of my work tendencies and how I handle failure. You’ll hear the unusual way I gained this self awareness at a young age – and I challenge you to do the same if you’re over there like, ‘Jordan I don’t know how to navigate obstacles! I just try to avoid them!’

Sister, I feel ya. But taking the time to know yourself to this level will serve you SO well in the long run. 

After you listen in, head on over to the Together Network to let me know if you identified any parts of your story in mine – I want to hear if we share a hidden talent or deal with set backs in a similar manner!

Oh, one more thing. Make sure you listen all the way to the end of this episode. You can thank me later. 

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Behind the Scenes on Work Life, Hidden Talents, and How I Handle Failure and Big Decisions

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Home inspectors, lenders, & real estate agents– oh my!

First time home buying can be a pretty intimidating thought from mortgages and budgeting to packing and furnishing. And don’t get me started on the paper work.

I remember feeling overwhelmed at simply the thought of buying my first home with my husband, Matt.

Where do I start? Who do I talk to? Am I even ready for this?

The questions swirled, but thankfully, I was provided with a great team that made the process a whole heck of a lot easier. And, yes, I am definitely including our parents in this ‘great team.’ Looking back, they provided us with some invaluable advice.

And so, sister, I’d like to pass along these priceless tidbits to you as well. If you’re in in the hunt for a home, or even simply thinking about starting the process, give this episode a listen. You’ll learn a few tips and tricks on how to budget, where to begin with mortgages and premiums, what rooms to unpack first, and why you need to stop apologizing to your first visitors!

Did I mention I bring my hubby in on this episode, too? The story just wouldn’t be complete without his perspective and wisdom as well. I think you’ll be surprised by just how invested he was into this journey! Small secret I’ll share with ya: Matt LOVES Fixer Upper. He’s such a sucker for Chip and Joanna, so he was pumped to find a home. And I love him for it.

Okay, home-buying, sister. Ready to feel empowered for your house buying journey? Give this a listen and start the hunt!

 

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Lessons We Learned From Buying Our First Home

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I'm Jordan Lee Dooley. I'm just a simple Indiana girl, writing, speaking, and handing out free hugs left and right. In college, I started a blog called SoulScripts, just for fun, and to speak life and truth into any peers that might have stumbled upon it. I never imagined it'd end up reaching hundreds of thousands, turn into books, speaking, and more. But hey, it's true: when you just say yes to God right where you are, He does more than you could ever ask or imagine. Let's help you find your yes and start walk in your gifting, too. Sound good?