Have you ever found yourself saying yes to one commitment after the other only to end up being burnt out and resentful?
Maybe you said yes because you’re a helper and you want to serve others or maybe you didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.
For many women, people-pleasing is at the root of over-commitment.
But as today’s guest says, “Every time you say yes to something you shouldn’t, you are saying no to something important.”
So how can we learn to navigate the tension between following God’s call to serve others and creating time for rest and other priorities?
You’re about to find out!
In this episode of the SHE podcast, I got to talk with Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and author Karen Ehman about how to break the pattern of people pleasing.
Meet Karen Ehman
Karen Ehman is a Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and New York Times bestselling author whose passion is to help women to live their priorities and love their lives as they serve God and others.
She has authored seventeen books and Bible studies including her newest book, When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable: How to Break the Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life. This book explores why we fall into people-pleasing behaviors and offers advice for how we can break out into the freedom God has called us to.
Get ready to take some notes and tune in to this episode to learn:
- Karen’s personal experience with people-pleasing and her experiment with saying no to extra commitments
- How to discern what pleases God rather than what pleases people
- The problems with overserving or saying yes to too many commitments
- Questions you can ask yourself to determine if you should say yes to a request
- Why saying no or setting boundaries doesn’t make you selfish or a “bad Christian”
- What it looks like to live out your own priorities rather than caving to the opinions and expectations of others
- Practical tips for saying no to extra commitments
Want to dig deeper? Find out more at www.karenehman.com.
And let us know in the comments: how have you struggled with people pleasing?