Do you believe that you’ll just ‘know’ if you’re ready to be engaged?

If so, how?

Do you have a specific check list? A financial goal to attain first? Waiting for a feeling within that ‘moment’ when you’ll just ‘know’?

And if you ARE currently engaged, are you finding it difficult to steward that season well? To actually enjoy this season of engagement, rather just attempting to ‘hurry it up’ in order to get to the wedding day?

Sister, I FEEL YOU.

Matt and I had a 14-month long engagement – and let me tell you – that felt like FOREVER.

For me, this season included not just wedding planning. But also moving away from the familiarity of family to new cities. And figuring out careers, finances, and you know- the actual ‘real world’ after college.

If you’re finding yourself a bit lost in your emotions during the engagement – or ‘hope to be engaged soon’ – season, this episode is for you.

Tune in to this mash up ‘Dear J’ + Relationship series episode where I answer the questions:

• How do I know if he’s the one?
• How do I know if I’m ready for engagement?
• How do I steward this season well?

You’ll hear my back story with my husband, one of my smack-you-in-the-face moments that affirmed my decision on Matt, and why it’s okay to mourn your single life before becoming a wife.

Friend, with each changing of relationship life season – single to dating; and pending fiancé to actual engagement; and ultimately, to wife status – you are allowed to acknowledge the good and honor the difficult in each season as you step into the next.

And want to know my one, nonfluctuating piece of advice?

Chase peace, not butterflies.

Listen in to fully understand what I mean from that statement and the one question that I believe is vital to ask yourself before accepting that ring that comes with a proposal.

And for all you already engaged gals out there – I know that this engagement period seems equally at a standstill as it does a quick blur. You’ll  learn how to soak up the season of being a fiancé before you forever put on the title of ‘wife.’

You only get this season once, sister. Squeeze out every moment of fiancé life, before this chapter turns into the next.

Trust me, you’ll want to know these things before this season comes to an end.