I know, with the holidays just around the corner, the sight of mistletoe or sound of another Christmas love song can be enough to make a single girl cringe.
Although I’ve been married several years now, I believe this is important to discuss. And regardless of your current relationship status – single, dating, engaged, or somewhere in between – I want you to thrive!
So, I called in the expert and a dear friend of mine, Stephanie May Wilson, to teach us how we can learn to love the season of life we’re in – even if we’re single but wanting to be married, or married but wanting to be a mom.
In this episode, we dove into the topic of singleness and modern dating, as well as tackled the reality that there tends to be two conflicting messages when it comes to the desire for marriage.
One of those messages is essentially that marriage is everything. When you finally meet your person, you will have made it in life.
This pressure often comes from questions like, “Have you met a nice guy yet?” and “Are you ever going to get married?” … especially around the holidays when Great Aunt Mildred comes around.
The other message is essentially the polar opposite: marriage is silly, and a strong, independent woman shouldn’t even worry about or desire it. This can leave gal who does desire to get married feeling ashamed of her own desires.
In this episode, Steph and I dove into a healthier approach, and provided simple ways on how to embrace that desire without shame while also enjoying your single/dating life without guilt.
It’s crucial to change our mindset from constantly wondering when you’ll get married, or the converse – avoiding marriage like the plague – to embracing the season you’re in without being afraid of future possibilities.
She reminded me that being married and wishing you weren’t is always worse than being single and wishing you weren’t.
Just noodle on that one for a second!
You might be thinking, “J, I’m not single. Should I even bother listening to this episode?”
Here’s the deal. Anytime I’m preparing to speak or trying to tackle a big project, no matter how perfect the logistics are, if I am in a conflict with someone close to me or experiencing relationship struggles, I feel completely thrown off.
It’s as if my life has been knocked off balance and I can’t find the missing step until I mend that relationship. It’s hard to show up as yourself when your relationships are falling apart.
That said, this episode isn’t only for those in a season of singleness, it’s meant to help you understand how to develop a healthy relationship with yourself, God, and those around you…and why doing so will get you where you want to be and do what you’re made to do.
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November 20, 2019