MORE ABOUT ME >

CATEGORIES

Marriage

Friendship

Home

Health & Fitness

Bible Study & Devotions

Leadership

Womanhood

Christian Business & Ministry

Writing

I'm Jordan Lee Dooley. I'm just a simple Indiana girl, writing, speaking, and handing out free hugs left and right. In college, I started a small shop called SoulScripts, just for fun, and now it's a widely recognized brand, houses a full fledged movement (Your Brokenness is Welcome Here), and provides employment opportunities to college women working to fund their education. On top of that, it led to further creative endeavors like speaking, writing books, and creating a variety of resources to help everyday women across the to live their most intentional lives.

more in

Podcast

Purpose

 

Does the fear of wasting time keep you from fully investing into a new project or idea?

                              Do you feel that your path is so NOT linear that your life story will never make sense?

 

When you’re multi-passionate or risk averse, it can feel really scary to begin something and not know the outcome.

And don’t get me started on the lies that fear wrap up as truths in our hearts.

So, sister, if you can relate, this episode is for you.

I brought on a gal who knows a thing or two about walking through different seasons and gaining different skillsets – all while staring down the face of fear. Meet Jessica Honegger. She is an award-winning social entrepreneur, the founder and co-CEO of the fashion impact brand, Noonday Collection, and author of the book Imperfect Courage.

What I love about this episode is that while Jessica has that long list of accomplishments tied to her hard work, she breaks down the fear she felt with each decision and why she decided to stop covering up her beginnings and instead embrace them to share with others.

Before founding Noonday, Jessica experienced a diverse journey from real estate to working in a jewelry storeSound familiar at all to your story? 

She shares how the picture was never clear when in the middle of each season, but acknowledges how absolutely nothing was wasted as she turned each of these skillsets into a company with a huge impact.

 

And nothing is wasted in your life either, sister.

 

So if you’re over there like, ‘My skillsets don’t overlap! What do I do with this concoction of experience?!’ – we have your back.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

– The importance of deciding NOW that your WHY is worth the RISK,
– Why courage isn’t actually about fearlessness,
– How the tapestry of your life is being beautifully woven together, you just can’t see it yet; and
– The Sisterhood Effect mindset you need to adapt ASAP.

And if you need a little more motivation today to push through your season of beginning, check out the episode on how I got started into all of this here.

Or if you struggle with a little something called Imposter Syndrome when starting out, got your back on that as well here.

Did you also hear about my BOOK that’s coming out?! For the deepest dive into overcoming fear and stepping into what you were made to do, make sure you pre-order my book HERE. Pre-order bonuses to be revealed SO SOON.

How to Stop Fear from Stopping You with Jessica Honegger

view the post

Relationships

 

Did you have an unhealthy view of marriage growing up?
                            Do you rely on the attention of men to fill you up?
                                                Do you ever feel that you are the worst wife on the face of the planet?

Sister, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

As I stepped into marriage with excitement in my heart and butterflies in my stomach, I was hit with a bit of harsh reality right away during these first, few years.

A reality that no one told me about ahead of time – but wished they had.

As ‘normal life’ began settle in after the big day, I began finding myself losing my cool one, too many times with my husband. And then I started to feel SO badly about myself. I began to think,

‘I know I’m the only one dealing with this. I can’t talk to anyone because they won’t understand.’

Turns out, I was wrong. I wasn’t the only one.

And neither are you.

And just to prove to you that you aren’t on an island out there in newlywed struggle land, I’ve brought in some back up for this episode. Meet my dear friend, Manda Carpenter. She’s an author, speaker, coach, and happens to be one of the most real and authentic people you’ll meet.

In this episode, Manda and I open up about the early years of marriage. How marriage is the best decision we’ve ever made – and also how we found ourselves struggling with what we assumed would magically go away once we had both those rings on our fingers.

Example? Manda keeps it real when she chats about how she still desired the attention of other men – even after the ceremony.

WOAH. Talk about some honesty. And relatability.

Because the truth is,

The lies that you believe before marriage, will also be the lies you believe after marriage.

So sister, strap up for this one. You’ll learn:

  • Why marriage didn’t solve your problems (actually, it probably magnified them),
  • Why marriage is so worth it even when it doesn’t feel like it,
  • How to keep your anger under control during arguments,

 

….and maybe even feel that you understand your man a bit more.

I wanted to have this conversation because I don’t know of anyone else that is. Newlywed years are hard, but so worth it. And we are here to remind you of that. And just how not alone you really are.

If you’d like more resources on how to strengthen and unify your marriage, listen in to this episode HERE and check out my New Wife Survival Guide here.

And if you desire full depth on these stories and more, be sure to pre-order my book here!

What No One Tells You About Your Newlywed Years with Manda Carpenter

view the post

Relationships

Have you ever felt torn between wanting to process through a problem, but not be gossipy about the situation in the meantime?

Do you worry that you’ll hurt feelings if you share frustrations with a third party, but then also be left without a resolution to the problem?

You’re not alone in this, sister.

It’s a fine line between problem solving and the sneaky, little thing called gossip. However, an answer can be found from asking yourself a few, honest, and hard-hitting questions.

First, always consider the environment in which you are speaking about the topic at hand – do these friends have a vested interest in solving the resolution?

Then continue on and ask yourself,

Does this conversation focus on the person or the problem?’

If you find the topic is the person, rather than the problem you’re trying to solve – then there may a problem with the conversation you’re having. Aka- gossip.

Friend, we were created to lift each other up and honor one another. And you are so capable of that – even in tough situations where gossip tries to take over. Never stop pursuing excellence in all of your conversations!

 

 

In today’s episode you’ll hear how I answer the question from a follower, Sophie, ‘How do I avoid gossip?’ In this Ask J series, you’ll learn:

  • Tools to identify gossip – before the words slip out and it’s too late!
  • How to shut down a conversation that is taking a turn down gossip lane;
  • The five questions to ask yourself before sharing your frustration with another friend.

 

Friendships are such an essential part of life, so check out these other episodes on identifying healthy friendships if you’d like more on this topic:

5 Ways to Know if Your Friendships are Healthy or Toxic
What To Do When Your Friend Makes Unhealthy Choices
Relationship Frustrations?

Share these episodes with those closest to you to lift each other up. Thank a friend today that you know always has your character and heart in mind with each word they speak.

And if you’re interested on how to not let gossip or the pressure of others get the way of making your mark in the world, check out my book, sister. You’ll find all this and more here.

How to Identify, Avoid and Shut Down Gossip

view the post

Podcast

 

Can you believe it was only two months ago that we were ringing in the New Year, 2018 turned into 2019, and it was time to tackle all of those New Year’s goals?

It feels equally like 10 years have passed, and no time at all.

How are those goals you scribbled down into your journal going? Was one of them to get into shape? Work out more? Eat healthier?

Whether you are smashin those fitness resolutions or maybe more slackin on them – no judgements here, sister, but I do have an episode for you to put that pep back in your step.

To get us all back on track, I pulled in the best of the best. She’s an author, former U.S. Marine (yep!), and the expert trainer behind Carrie Underwood’s legendary legs: Erin Oprea. She’s here to whip our butts into shape and teach us a thing or two about drive, perseverance, and effective work outs.

Erin Oprea is one tough cookie, let me tell ya. Not only does she now train some of the fittest names in country music, but this woman also made history when she was appointed to lead the first female platoon attached to the infantry in a war zone. WHAT. What can this woman not do?!

Ladies, you’ll leave this episode equally equipped and motivated from Erin’s story and knowledge. Listen in for:

  • Effective work out tips,
  • The beet juice that Erin drinks to get ready for the day,
  • The strategy she put in place to completely shift her career, and
  • The gratitude mindset Erin accepts each time she gets to move her body.

 

And we are here to remind all of you:

 

You are more than the number on the scale.

 

Whether it’s our fitness journey, business endeavor, or career goals: there will be ups, down, failures, and successes –it’s those lows you’ll need to push through to experience those successes.

And the best part?

YOU get to define what success looks like for you. No matter the number on the scale, no matter the opinion of others, no matter what society tells you.

Sister, you are worthy and capable of breaking any limitations placed on you by yourself or others. Wake up, drink your new beet juice recipe, and get your mindset ready for the day.

PS – Check out my Instagram stories for Erin’s beet juice recipe!!

 

Tips to Work Out Effectively & Dream Patiently

view the post

Podcast

 

Does your pulse start to race a bit higher when the word ‘finances’ is brought up in a conversation?

Personally, I HATE spreadsheets. So the thought of creating a budget makes my skin crawl a little bit. Thankfully, my husband is better in this department than I am, but at the end of the day – it’s a team effort in marriage.
Love it or hate it – saving, budgeting, and investing are a large part of life as responsibilities continue to pile up.

401k?! Roth?! Is there such thing as good debt?

What if I love to shop? Should I merge bank accounts with my husband?

If these questions have ever come to your mind, or even if you’re over there not sure what half of those terms mean – you’re in the right place, sister.

I decided to bring on #1 NYT Best Seller author, podcaster, and money expert, Rachel Cruze, to set it all straight and let us in on her best, healthy money mindset and practices.

Being brought up in a household where finances were openly chatted about (spoiler alert: Rachel is Dave Ramsey’s daughter), Rachel knows a thing a two about money management – so be ready to jot down a lotttt of notes.

In this episode you’ll learn practical ways to start saving your cashola right this minute, when exactly is the right time to begin saving for retirement (it’s more interesting than it sounds), and how to balance all of this with one of Rachel’s favorite activities: shopping.

What I love about Rachel’s approach with saving money and paying off debt is that she doesn’t just keep it straight factual – she also touches on the emotional and spiritual impact of money. So if you’ve felt the emotional weight of debt or spiritual effect of over-spending, you have a safe space here, sister.

Be sure to listen to the end where we chat about Rachel’s perspective on merging bank accounts with your spouse and her best, app recommendations to help you with that saving.

Money freedom is waiting for you, gal. It’s time to begin your healthy relationship with your finances.

When, How & Why to Start Saving Your Hard Earned Dollars with Rachel Cruze

view the post

Relationships

I could get grumpy or I could get creative.”

Not exactly the words you want running through your mind on your first Valentine’s Day as a new wife.

First off, if you’re reading this the day I’m posting, HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY 2019, GIRLFRIEND.

I hope that your day is full of hearts and chocolate and pink balloons and all of your favorite desserts.

BUT. If your day is anything like mine was a couple years ago, the day may look a tad differently due to an unexpected turn of events.

Well, actually, let me rephrase.

The unexpected turn of events was more of an unmet expectation event – you know, the expectation that I didn’t exactly share with my husband.

Ugh.

You see, I just KNEW that since it was our first V-Day as a married couple that Matt was going to go ALL out for this day.

But as the morning turned into afternoon. And the afternoon turned to evening, my high, high hopes (cue Panic at the Disco song) began to dwindle when I didn’t hear from him about the surprise, over the top, glamorous plans for the evening I just knew he had in the works.

This was a very quick lesson learned in our marriage: Matt isn’t a mind reader (shocking, right?).

Sister, are you like me with these high expectations – left sitting in your head and heart – but not actually spoken out to your significant other? If so, this episode is here to put your mind at ease, and ultimately help strengthen your relationship in the process.

I’ve brought my hubby on for this one, just to make sure I painted an accurate picture of that hilarious V-Day (gotta pull him in to keep me straight sometimes 🙂 ).

Listen in to learn the four things you can do RIGHT NOW to make this the best, and most expectation managed Valentine’s Day yet.

And these principles don’t just apply to V-Day, sister. These are tips and tricks to carry you with into everyday situations with your man.

And don’t worry, the boys aren’t getting off too easily, either. While sometimes women need to manage their expectations, men also need to equally step up to the plate a bit by anticipating the needs of the relationship.

I can’t wait for you to hear our first (almost disastrous) V-Day as a married couple -while also learning some tangible tips on how to manage the hype around this holiday along the way.

After you listen, head on over to the Together Network or my Instagram and let me know YOUR worst or best V-day story. Let’s learn to take the pressure off and laugh at ourselves together, friend.

Managing Expectations in Your Relationship or Marriage

view the post

Relationships

Do you believe that you’ll just ‘know’ if you’re ready to be engaged?

If so, how?

Do you have a specific check list? A financial goal to attain first? Waiting for a feeling within that ‘moment’ when you’ll just ‘know’?

And if you ARE currently engaged, are you finding it difficult to steward that season well? To actually enjoy this season of engagement, rather just attempting to ‘hurry it up’ in order to get to the wedding day?

Sister, I FEEL YOU.

Matt and I had a 14-month long engagement – and let me tell you – that felt like FOREVER.

For me, this season included not just wedding planning. But also moving away from the familiarity of family to new cities. And figuring out careers, finances, and you know- the actual ‘real world’ after college.

If you’re finding yourself a bit lost in your emotions during the engagement – or ‘hope to be engaged soon’ – season, this episode is for you.

Tune in to this mash up ‘Dear J’ + Relationship series episode where I answer the questions:

  • How do I know if he’s the one?
  • How do I know if I’m ready for engagement?
  • How do I steward this season well?

 

You’ll hear my back story with my husband, one of my smack-you-in-the-face moments that affirmed my decision on Matt, and why it’s okay to mourn your single life before becoming a wife.

Friend, with each changing of relationship life season – single to dating; and pending fiancé to actual engagement; and ultimately, to wife status – you are allowed to acknowledge the good and honor the difficult in each season as you step into the next.

And want to know my one, nonfluctuating piece of advice?

Chase peace, not butterflies.

Listen in to fully understand what I mean from that statement and the one question that I believe is vital to ask yourself before accepting that ring that comes with a proposal.

And for all you already engaged gals out there – I know that this engagement period seems equally at a standstill as it does a quick blur. You’ll  learn how to soak up the season of being a fiancé before you forever put on the title of ‘wife.’

You only get this season once, sister. Squeeze out every moment of fiancé life, before this chapter turns into the next.

Trust me, you’ll want to know these things before this season comes to an end.

How To Know If He’s The One & If You’re Ready to Get Engaged

view the post

Relationships

Valentine’s Day.

What’s the first thing you feel when reading those words?

  • Excitement because you’re in a relationship?
  • Dread because you’re not?
  • Loneliness because it reminds you of past V-Days that were great, but things aren’t looking so promising this year?

 

Well, sister, no matter your perspective of V-Day currently, we’re going to shake things up a bit over here today. It’s time to embrace the red and pink and reclaim February 14th as a day to celebrate you and your friendships.

Okay, maybe you’re still sitting there like, ‘Yeah, sure J, what’s going to make it so great this year?’

Well, so glad you asked.

This year, we’re making V-Day all about focusing on our deepest relationships – and obviously I’m talking about the the ones with our girlfriends.

And to make sure I’ve covered all my bases, I’ve brought in some awesome back up for this special episode. In this Part 2 of our Relationship Series, you’ll be meeting Brighton Keller, fashion blogger, influencer, girl boss, and Galentine’s Day extraordinaire, in this Single Girl V-Day discussion.

She’s handing over her ultimate guide on throwing a rad Galentine’s Day with fun, creative, and nostalgic ways for you to make those memories (karaoke, anyone?!).

Call up your girls. Grab some ice-cream (or popcorn. Or cake. Or whatever it is that makes your heart skip a beat). And make this day about deepening and prioritizing friendships.

Put down the phone. Turn off Instagram Notifications. And this is your reminder that work can wait just one day while you stay present with your girls on the 14th.

Happy celebrating!

Did you miss the first episode in this Relationship Series? Check out the first episode on how to heal your heart after a break up!

Single Girl’s Guide to Making This Valentine’s Day Fun

view the post

Relationships

 

 

Ever found yourself sitting on the floor, listening to an emotional Taylor Swift song, and asking yourself, ‘What do I do with all this hurt?’

Oh, uhh, yeahh, me either.

Except of course that time when I was 15 and my heart was shattered into a million pieces.

Or the time in highschool when my closest friend and I weren’t exactly friends any more.

And then there was the time …

Okay, so perhaps I’ve been on that floor a time or two with hurt in my heart that felt like the weight of ten elephants.

And I’m guessing you’ve been there too, friend.

It’s a weird feeling when a relationship ends, but yet the world keeps on going. The anger, the sadness, and the explosion of confusion. Doesn’t everyone know that you need to stop and put life on pause for a few weeks while you gather the pieces of your broken heart to attempt to glue them back together again?

While work, and life, and jobs, and other relationships don’t exactly stop for you to heal up the hurt, there ARE ways to (semi) gracefully navigate the path of healing.

In this episode, I’ve put together my best Breakup 101 Tips to experience healing and begin for life to feel ‘normal’ again. Listen in to learn :

–         How to respond, not just react, to rejection and heartbreak,
–         What exactly it means to ‘validate with an expiration date’
–         Why your journal can handle your strong and conflicting emotions, and
–         How to feel the pain without giving it power to rule your life.

Sister, you were created for a purposeful life, not just a protected one. So feel your feelings, but know they aren’t your identity.

You’re not broken. You’re not damaged. You’re not stuck.

And don’t you dare begin to live a smaller or safer life to attempt to save yourself from another heartbreak. You have entirely too much to give and too many people to serve to play your life ‘safely.’

Now go cue up Taylor Swift’s Picture to Burn one more time, and then tune into this episode to begin your journey of healing after heartbreak.

 

Listen on Spotify here!

 

Breakups 101: Tips to Help a Broken Heart

view the post

Podcast

 

Grab Sarah’s e-book on healthy eating for the busy gal here!

Raise your hand if you’ve ever had a health or fitness goal?

Now raise your hand if that health or fitness goal somehow transformed into this slippery little slope of obsessive thoughts, negative body image, and judgmental food voices in your mind?

Well, sister. If you’re hand is still raised, I’m standing over here with you, beside you, and cheering you on into freedom.

I’ve been down that road and taken that journey. I remember how isolating it was when I would obsessively think about every little calorie taken in at a meal or burned off in the gym.

But I’m here to tell you that there is freedom to be found in your relationship with food. You CAN eat healthy without obsessively thinking about the healthy food.

And someone else who know knows this journey well is my friend, Sarah Grace Spann. Sarah is the Founder of Fresh Fit N Healthy, the author of the book Chasing Freedom, a former D1 athlete, and a Registered Dietitian with an MS in Exercise Physiology. So yeah, she definitely knows her stuff – which is why I knew she would be perfect for the show. Sarah is one of those people who can assist you with the science behind healthy eating along with also giving you a fresh perspective of yourself in the middle of your fitness journey. It’s a gift, really.

In this episode, Sarah and I dive into breaking old food habits, how you can be confident before you hit those fitness goals, and the real danger when we begin to link our own morality with our food decisions. You’ll learn details on the hormones that make you feel full, how to correctly pair your meals and snacks, and the true effects of stress on your body.

I love Sarah’s perspective on a healthy food relationship, and I also so respect her for the knowledge she has gained on the science and research behind nutritional eating. So if you already have a healthy relationship with food or exercise, but want to know more on nutrition, how to fuel your body well, and learn some ‘science-y’ things (this will make more sense when you listen in! 🙂 ) – you’re in the right place.

Sister, your health is so important, but please remember your health is more than just the food you eat – it includes your mental and emotional state as well. I want to see you stepping into your most healthy lifestyle yet, and I’m hoping my conversation with Sarah serves a small piece of that journey.

It’s time to break up with those unhealthy thoughts cycling through your mind and begin your healthy and balanced relationship with food- and yourself. 

 

Experience Food Freedom & Eat to Fuel Your Body with Sarah Grace, RD

view the post

MORE ABOUT ME

CATEGORIES

Marriage

Friendship

Home

Health & Fitness

Bible Study & Devotions

Leadership

Womanhood

Christian Business & Ministry

Writing

I'm Jordan Lee Dooley. I'm just a simple Indiana girl, writing, speaking, and handing out free hugs left and right. In college, I started a blog called SoulScripts, just for fun, and to speak life and truth into any peers that might have stumbled upon it. I never imagined it'd end up reaching hundreds of thousands, turn into books, speaking, and more. But hey, it's true: when you just say yes to God right where you are, He does more than you could ever ask or imagine. Let's help you find your yes and start walk in your gifting, too. Sound good?